An Open Letter to Certain White Women Who Are Threatening to Withhold Support from Obama in November: Your Whiteness is Showing
Thought this was a really interesting take, although it does look like the Clinton supporters are moving to Obama.
Interestingly, the woman who is leading the Clinton women for McCain charge is the same women who tried to keep the African American Sally Hemings line of the Jefferson family out of the Jefferson family picnic. This commentary addresses those sets of issues head on.
An Open Letter to Certain White Women Who Are Threatening to Withhold Support from Obama in November Your Whiteness is Showing
By TIM WISE
This is an open letter to those white women who, despite their proclamations of progressivism, and supposedly because of their commitment to feminism, are threatening to withhold support from Barack Obama in November. You know who you are.
I know that it's probably a bad time for this. Your disappointment at the electoral defeat of Senator Hillary Clinton is fresh, the sting is new, and the anger that animates many of you--who rightly point out that the media was often sexist in its treatment of the Senator--is raw, pure and justified.
That said, and despite the awkward timing, I need to ask you a few questions, and I hope you will take them in the spirit of solidarity with which they are genuinely intended. But before the questions, a statement if you don't mind, or indeed, even if (as I suspect), you will mind it quite a bit.
First, for those of you threatening to actually vote for John McCain and to oppose Senator Obama, or to stay home in November and thereby increase the likelihood of McCain winning and Obama losing (despite the fact that the latter's policy platform is virtually identical to Clinton's while the former's clearly is not), all the while claiming to be standing up for women...
For those threatening to vote for John McCain or to stay home and increase the odds of his winning (despite the fact that he once called his wife the c-word in public and is a staunch opponent of reproductive freedom and gender equity initiatives, such as comparable worth legislation), all the while claiming to be standing up for women...
For those threatening to vote for John McCain or to stay home and help ensure Barack Obama's defeat, as a way to protest what you call Obama's sexism (examples of which you seem to have difficulty coming up with), all the while claiming to be standing up for women...
Your whiteness is showing.
When I say your whiteness is showing this is what I mean: You claim that your opposition to Obama is an act of gender solidarity, in that women (and their male allies) need to stand up for women in the face of the sexist mistreatment of Clinton by the press. On this latter point--the one about the importance of standing up to the media for its often venal misogyny--you couldn't be more correct. As the father of two young girls who will have to contend with the poison of patriarchy all their lives, or at least until such time as that system of oppression is eradicated, I will be the first to join the boycott of, or demonstration on, whatever media outlet you choose to make that point. But on the first part of the above equation--the part where you insist voting against Obama is about gender solidarity--you are, for lack of a better way to put it, completely full of crap. And what's worse is that at some level I suspect you know it. Voting against Senator Obama is not about gender solidarity. It is an act of white racial bonding, and it is grotesque.
If it were gender solidarity you sought, you would by definition join with your black and brown sisters come November, and do what you know good and well they are going to do, in overwhelming numbers, which is vote for Barack Obama. But no. You are threatening to vote not like other women--you know, the ones who aren't white like you and most of your friends--but rather, like white men! Needless to say it is high irony, bordering on the outright farcical, to believe that electorally bonding with white men, so as to elect McCain, is a rational strategy for promoting feminism and challenging patriarchy. You are not thinking and acting as women, but as white people. So here's the first question: What the hell is that about?
And you wonder why women of color have, for so long, thought (by and large) that white so-called feminists were phony as hell? Sister please...
Your threats are not about standing up for women. They are only about standing up for the feelings of white women, and more to the point, the aspirations of one white woman. So don't kid yourself. If you wanted to make a statement about the importance of supporting a woman, you wouldn't need to vote for John McCain, or stay home, thereby producing the same likely result--a defeat for Obama. You could always have said you were going to go out and vote for Cynthia McKinney. After all, she is a woman, running with the Green Party, and she's progressive, and she's a feminist. But that isn't your threat is it? No. You're not threatening to vote for the woman, or even the feminist woman. Rather, you are threatening to vote for the white man, and to reject not only the black man who you feel stole Clinton's birthright, but even the black woman in the race. And I wonder why? Could it be...?
See, I told you your whiteness was showing.
And now for a third question, and this is the biggie, so please take your time with it: How is it that you have managed to hold your nose all these years, just like a lot of us on the left, and vote for Democrats who we knew were horribly inadequate--Kerry, Gore, Clinton, Dukakis, right on down the uninspiring line--and yet, apparently can't bring yourself to vote for Barack Obama? A man who, for all of his shortcomings (and there are several, as with all candidates put up by either of the two is surely more progressive than any of those just mentioned. And how are we to understand that refusal--this sudden line in the proverbial sand--other than as a racist slap at a black man? You will vote for white men year after year after year--and are threatening to vote for another one just to make a point--but can't bring yourself to vote for a black man, whose political views come much closer to your own, in all likelihood, than do the views of any of the white men you've supported before. How, other than as an act of racism, or perhaps as evidence of political insanity, is one to interpret such a thing?
See, black folks would have sucked it up, like they've had to do forever, and voted for Clinton had it come down to that. Indeed, they were on board the Hillary train early on, convinced that Obama had no chance to win and hoping for change, any change, from the reactionary agenda that has been so prevalent for so long in this culture. They would have supported the white woman--hell, for many black folks, before Obama showed his mettle they were downright excited to do so--but you won't support the black man. And yet you have the audacity to insist that it is you who are the most loyal constituency of the Democratic Party, and the one before whom Party leaders should bow down, and whose feet must be kissed?
Your whiteness is showing.
Look, I couldn't care less about the Party personally. I left the Democrats twenty years ago when they told me that my activism in the Central America solidarity and South African anti-apartheid movements made me a security risk, and that I wouldn't be able to get clearance to be in some parade with Governor Dukakis. Yeah, seriously. But for you to act as though you are the indispensible voters, the most important, the ones whose views should be pandered to, whose every whim should be the basis for Party policy, is not only absurd, it is also racist in that it, a) ignores and treats as irrelevant the much more loyal constituency of black folks, without whom no Democrat would have won anything in the past twenty years (and indeed the racial gap favoring the Democrats among blacks is about six times larger than the gender gap favoring them among white women, relative to white men); and b) demonstrates the mentality of entitlement and superiority that has been long ingrained in us as white folks--so that we believe we have the right to dictate the terms of political engagement, and to determine the outcome, and to get our way, simply because for so long we have done just that.
But that day is done, whether you like it or not, and you are now left with two, and only two choices, so consider them carefully: the first is to stand now in solidarity with your black brothers and sisters and welcome the new day, and help to push it in a truly progressive and feminist and antiracist direction, while the second is to team up with white men to try and block the new day from dawning. Feel free to choose the latter. But if you do, please don't insult your own intelligence, or ours, by insisting that you've done so as a radical political act.
Tim Wise is the author of: White Like Me: Reflections on Race from a Privileged Son (Soft Skull Press, 2005), and Affirmative Action: Racial Preference in Black and White (Routledge: 2005). He can be reached at: timjwise@msn.com
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McCain on Roe v. Wade
something to add to the discussion about feminists and Obama
Obama/Clinton/race/gender
I've been following this thread between Catherine & Steve and I believe that both raise excellent points.
I agree with Steve, Catherine, in that it would be a shame if you and other women who voted for Hilary were to sit out this year.
It is true that we desperately need change in this country and we need our citizens involved in the process of deciding who are next president should be.
This primary has been phenomenal in that the two last standing contenders and their campaigns had to contend with white privilege and gender bias respectively, and that despite these challenges they were the last two standing. I believe that this says something tremendously powerful about both Mr. Obama and Mrs. Clinton- not because they were able to do it and therefore the obstacles were not there, but rather because they were able to do in spite of the obstacles.
Call me the eternal optimist but I do think that that says something about how far we are progressing as a nation.
I believe that in the ideal everyone in this country would have an equal opportunity. I am clear that the evidence proves that this is unfortunately not yet the reality. Sexism and racism are real (as are other isms). They exist in this country and to both of your points, they permeate the political process and the media. (And I would argue every other institution that exists in this nation and the world.) Institutional racism and sexism are not theoretical they are real. The facts bear this out. It is a triumph that Hilary and Obama were able to overcome as much of it as they did; and yet that does not deny that they exist. I grew up in upstate NY- the land famous for Susan B. Anthony and Frederick Douglas and to Catherine's point while we have come a long way from those days, I do not forget that our right to vote as women was recent nor that only a few generations back African-Americans were held in slavery.
Is it Steve's fault as a white male that racism and sexism exist? Is it Catherine's fault? Is it mine?
Am I privileged because I was born with the ability to see, because I was born in this nation. Absolutely. Does that mean that I am going out of my way to steal from other people? No. But that does mean that I was very blessed and given a very fortuitous set of circumstances in that regard? Yes.
My having them does not mean that I am playing unfair but my not acknowledging that my having them sets me up in a fortuitous set of circumstances would.
We were all created in God's image but that does not play out as equality in this world.
My response would be that the causation of this bias and inequity are rooted much deeper than the fault of any one of us and yet I would also argue that it is our responsibility to acknowledge the existence of this bias and the benefits that we reap from it, even if we do not contribute to its perpetuation and to do our part to act in opposition to it and towards the ideal of equality.
The tone and presentation in this piece is confrontational Catherine and I get that for you it became an accusational piece, but I hope my words have helped to provide an additional perspective.
As for Obama and his next steps...
Did Obama benefit from male privilege in obtaining the nomination?
Absolutely.
If I were one of his advisors/political consultants/staff, I would council him to listen to modest mother/wife/citizen/employee powerhouses like yourself Catherine for they could make the difference in this election. And I would advise him to acknowledge the fact that sexism still exists, that it played out in this campaign and that his promise of hope and a better America will include a nation where true equity for women is the goal- for Catherine is right, the young daughters of our nation- hers and his included- they are watching.
white privilege
I don't want to speak for Tim, but I think what he was referring to was white privilege, a term Bill Bradley coined about a decade ago. I haven't been able to find the article, but here's some snippets: http://www.govote.com/Celeb/Bill_Bradley_Civil_Rights.htm.
There are a number of really interesting points about this issue in this blog:
http://www.jackandjillpolitics.com/2008/01/women-white-privilege-and-bra...
Essentially, its important to note that black feminists and a good number of white and Latino feminists voted for Obama to begin with. The outrage of some feminists would seem much more plausible if they had similar outrage about the racism that Obama. Indeed some feminists perpetuated this racism. The blog makes the point that Gloria Steinem has no problem saying that part of the reason Obama won was because he was black. Could the same be said about Hillary's success in regard to women? Would that be appropriate? Would we say McCain won because he's white?
Indeed, Ferraro made the same point and was pretty darn racist in the process alluding to quotas, something well acknowledged as coded racist language. In these cases it seem as though white privilege is not being acknowledged or as Tim says, "whiteness is showing."
Obama ran a much cleaner campaign than the Clinton campaign. I think this is fairly widely recognized. I haven't heard the whining comment, but I don't think that's inherently sexist or coded sexist language. Its the Clinton campaign that played on race inappropriately throughout, with Bill Clinton and Geraldine Ferraro as the biggest culprits.
It be a shame if you sat out this year, Catherine, when we so desperately need change in this country. This election will hopefully create a lot more dialogue about women's issues and about issues related to racism. I think we have to start from a point of acknowlegement though that white privilege and gender bias are still very much realities in our society. Both campaigns had to contend with elements thereof.
Voting for a prolife, pro war candidate shouldn't even be on the table for any of us concerned about these issues. That's what I believe Tim is frustrated by, and I know that 20% of Clinton voters that may yet for McCain frustrate the hell out of me for similar reasons. As I mentioned, the woman leading the charge here worked to keep African American descendents of Jefferson and his slave Sally Hemings out of the Jefferson family picnic. (http://tpmelectioncentral.talkingpointsmemo.com/2008/06/highlevel_mccain...) Paula Abeles clearly has a lot racism.
Throughout American history, racism and sexism has been used as a tool to get people to vote again their own social and economic interests. Let's hope we can get by that in 2008.
P-lease
I came from Italy when I was seven years old, not being able to speak a word of English. After living a month with my aunt in Brooklyn, my mother, father, two older brothers, twin sister and I moved into a small two-room apartment on Ditmas Avenue.
Within one week after we immigrated, my mother went to work in a sweatshop as a seamstress and my father went to work as a porter; neither spoke English. We never owned a car or went on a vacation. Red meat was a rarity while beans, pasta and escarole were the rule. We also never looked for or took public assistance of any kind whatsoever. Whatever health benefits we had came from my mother's ILGWU membership.
When my sister and I went to public school in 1970, we were immediately put into separate classes, which was a very scary thing for two seven year old girls who spoke no English. There was no bi-lingual education for me. We both learned English by the sink or swim method.
I worked my way through Brooklyn College with no financial aid and graduated with an accounting degree. My husband receives no government aid for the $20,000 we pay out of our pocket every year for the home aide that showers him and helps him use the bathroom.
I am against racism and sexism in any form whatsoever. And when Hillary Clinton spoke of eighty and ninety year-old women who lived at a time when they could not vote, it brought tears to my eyes. Many younger women have no idea what older women have and still endure.
I remember Hilary Clinton apologizing for Geraldine Ferraro's remarks; I don't recall Senator Obama speaking out against the crap Chris Matthews and others slung at Hillary. And as for Ferraro's comments, there was some truth in what she said. A black man goes a lot farther than a black woman. Carol Mosely Braun's 2004 presidential run proved that a smart woman is not take as seriously as any man.
I want Obama to sweat a bit. He said nothing when punks were crashing her rallies screaming, “iron my shirt” or when some of his supporters wore shirts that said “bros, not hos.” Unlike my husband who would vote for a jar of tomato sauce if it was registered Democrat, I want Obama to first explain why he didn't condemn any of this. As a woman and a mother of young daughter such silence concerns me.
I do not begrudge the government for helping those that truly need assistance. Like my husband I am a Democrat. But as someone who works as a bookkeeper in a grocery store, I see perfectly healthy people of all colors paying for food with government benefit cards; assistance my family and I were ashamed of asking for.
Now, with all this in mind, please explain to me in everyday language how I've benefited from “White privilege.” And while you do this, please don't lecture me until you walk a mile in my heels.
Catherine Cocozzelli
historical and current discrimination
Catherine,
Let me say that I admire the grit and determination of you and your family to make something of yourself. This is what makes American a great place...that immigrants from every generation are afforded opportunities to work hard and play by the rules, have a chance in this country. I'm sure that Italian Americans have faced discrimination in their history.
No one can deny Hillary's accomplishment and that women continue to face sexism in our society. If the 80 or 90 year old women who could not vote brought a tear to your eyes, than similarly I'm sure the 60 or 70 year old black folk who could not vote in the south, but had tremendous pride in voting for Obama elicited similar emotion.
It seems though that you have quite a blind spot when it comes to racism and discrimination that people of color face on a daily basis and the tremendous history of racism in our country.
I don't think anyone can honestly look at the grinding poverty of New Orleans and the outcomes of Katrina, and say that we live in a country where everyone has equal opportunity. I think we need to simply look at the facts when it comes to racism and discrimination in this country and understand that it still exists today. Life is tough for people of all colors, but people of color have additional barriers in the labor and housing markets.
Housing segregation is worse today than it was before the Civil Rights Act or even the Civil War (http://www.upjohninst.org/publications/newsletter/kd_701.pdf). As white folks left the city for the suburbs over the last 50 years, its actually made segregation worse. There are also numerous studies that African Americans and Latinos face discrimination from both realtors and mortgage underwriters. (http://money.cnn.com/2006/05/31/news/mortgage_study/index.htm) These groups are 30% more likely to receive higher rates. This is something we white people don't have to deal with Catherine and thereby our privilege in our society.
For more background and facts, I would encourage a read of George Lipsitz's "Possessive Inverstment in Whiteness" by Temple University Press which talks about the formation of a white identity (over our ethnic backgrounds - I'm more identified as white than Irish for example) and the real education, housing and employment discrimination that folks still face.
On the point with Chris Mathews, he doesn't work for the Obama campaign. He's a member of the media. I believe he apologized, but Obama can't and shouldn't be held responsible for often irresponsible media. Ferraro on the other hand was part of the Clinton campaign. Ferraro hasn't apologized, I believe Mathew has. Furthermore, Hillary or Bill never apologized for Bill's racist comments.
I think the point here is that Obama ran a clean campaign. They both dealt with discrimination issues and that Hillary lost fair and square. She had every advantage going into the race and because of poor strategy, a stupid vote to authorize the Iraq War and an insistence to not apologize for the mistake that she made, she lost. The other part though is that Obama is a phenomenal candidate who supports all the issues you and other feminists support including being pro-choice, fighting discrimination, improving education, and getting our sons and daughters home from a war that should have never been waged.
There's every good reason to get on board with the Obama campaign and vote for him in November and I hope you do.
You Still Didn't Answer My Question
You still didn’t answer my question. How am I “privileged?” And if I am, what am I supposed to do about it? I didn’t ask for any such “privilege.” I just went about my business without prejudice, I might add.
As for New Orleans and Katrina, are you saying I caused that? That’s what you seem to be saying. If anything I voted against Bush. Twice I might add. Like you I was disgusted by the government’s failure. And like most working woman, I have a job and a family to take care of. I don’t have time to read George Lipsitz.
And how did I cause segregation? After I came here from Italy I’ve lived in New York City all my life. And if I remember correctly, most of those Latinos you talk about voted for Hillary.
When you start calling people like me “privileged,” you’re basically accusing me of playing unfair. Does that mean I went out of my way to steal from Blacks?
And no, I don’t want Obama to apologize for Chris Matthews. Still I want him to explain why he didn’t condemn the sexism that sure helped him win the nomination. After all, he benefited from "male privilege.”
Catherine Cocozzelli
why the defensiveness?
Catherine,
Its one thing to acknowledge that racism and thereby white privilege exist. There's no need to be defensive about it though. You and I didn't create this system, but it is unfair to African Americans, Latinos and Native Americans. Our families haven't necessarily contributed to the system. We may not hold an ounce of racial prejudice ourselves. But that doesn't stop the system from being unfair.
However, the facts are that we do benefit in small and subtle ways as a result of a system. If one group is being discriminated against, the other group inherently in a privileged position. You can't both acknowledge racial bias and not also acknowledge that the system disproportionately benefits white folks.
As white people, I think we should be working towards civil rights and racial justice. Acknowleding the fact that the system privileges us means that we have a responsibility to speak out when we see prejudice and to work on policy changes that eliminate institutional bias. Just as we would want to eliminate institutional gender bias that creates glass ceilings, we would want to eliminate bias in housing mortgages.
Well, I think Obama did benefit from being a male and I have heard him condemn sexism. But he also dealt with bias and they were no less than with what Hillary had to contend.
I'm Not Being Defensive
I just want a straight answer from you. And I don't seem to be getting it. That is the furtherest thing from being defensive.
When you start describing me as "privileged" you're making an accusation. I did nothing in my life to bring about this so-called privileged life. What good does it do to use such language? All you're doing is turning people off to the change you really want.
Catherine Cocozzelli
i have answered
I have answered the question. If one group is systematically being discriminated against, the other group benefits from that discrimination whether individuals in the other group asked for the benefit or not.
Do you believe that racial discrimination exists? If so, you can see how whites then are privileged position in the society, because they don't have to contend with such discrimination. That doesn't mean that all of us are privileged equally, especially if we add gender, economic class or sexual orientation into the equation. Nonetheless, white privilege exists.
If we can acknowledge that we can more productively mobilize against institutional racism and more productively engage in building a unified mult-racial, multi-ethnic progressive movement. I have found that if white folks ignore these racial differences, such dialogue and movement building is a lot more difficult.
Welcome Catherine!
Catherine, It is great seeing you on CrossLeft. It has been a wonderful thing having your husband Frank involved in our community. He is a gifted writer and we are lucky to have him blogging here.
We've also been priviledged in having been able to cross-post the first published piece of your daughter on CrossLeft!
So, I am delighted to see that now yet another member of the Cocozelli family is sharing her thoughts! Although I realize that you must be very busy as a working woman, mother and wife, I am hopeful that we will see you posting often and on many threads. And again, welcome!
My “Whiteness” Is Showing?
My husband Frank, a regular blogger on this site showed me this incredibly dumb and arrogant post. It made my blood boil.
My husband and I strongly supported Hillary. With the primaries over, he is asking me to vote for Obama. Considering how Obama played into the press’s sexist treatment of my senator I find that to be a tall order. Where were his denunciations of the invective aimed at Ms. Clinton? They were nowhere to be found. Instead, I heard Obama describe her once as “whining,” a sexist dog whistle if I ever heard one.
So please realize that condescending posts such as this do nothing to calm my anger. If anything, Mr. Wise, your sexism is showing. I won’t vote for John McCain, but I still may not vote at all this year.
Catherine Cocozzelli